Thursday, January 16, 2014

How To Know If The Traveling Pastor Got An Attitude Problem

By Judy Sullivan


The individual should be aware that a traveling pastor is not an angel. Not everyone who works at the church is a good person. There are some who actually have severe attitude problems and they even hold a high position at the church. If the person wants to know whether the said professional has an attitude problem, here are the things to check up on.

First of all, try to see if the said professional is self-centered. This may manifest itself in the amount of needs that a professional has. The professional can be classified as self-centered if his or her needs is paramount to the church's needs. There are even times when his or her needs take precedence over this church.

No one is perfect. People make mistakes and that is how they learn. If the priest cannot accept their own mistakes, then they surely need to go to counseling and get their attitude problem cured. They should learn how to accept their own mistakes or misdeeds and ask for forgiveness the right way.

Being unable offer a heartfelt apology or ask for forgiveness might also be due to the fact that the said professional has a high blaming behavior. This is the kind of behavior that will just project all of a person's faults on to other people. This means that whatever happens, any mistake is never his or her fault.

Being unreliable is not good for anyone working in a church. Achurch is the refuge of those who are weary. If people are weary, they need someone they can rely on. If the priest cannot give them the support they need, then they will collapse even further. A priest's undependable attitude is problematic.

There are also those professionals who may be aware of the consequences of their actions but choose to ignore it. It is just like they do not even care that there are other people who will be affected by the actions that they take. They have little, if not zero, conscience. All they care about is their own well-being.

Pathological lying is also a trait of such professionals who have attitude problems. This means that they can lie if they consider this to be helpful to their image and if the lie will not be discovered. If the lie is discovered or followed up on, they will simply imply that the other person is wrong and that the lie was never said in the first place.

Someone who can rationalize easily can either be a good or a bad person. However, someone who use their rationalizing ability to twist conversations to gain at the expense of others surely have an attitude problem. If these people get trapped, they either keep on talking or change subjects. At times, they get angry.

There are other things that one has to be aware of when they want to know about the attitude of the traveling pastor. Make sure to identify beforehand if they are self-centered or not. This way, one can make the right decisions on whether to work with them or not or how they should be dealt with.




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